Sometimes when a family is considering adoption, they ask themselves, “How will it affect the children I currently have?” Well, who better to answer that question than a child who has been affected by adoption themselves? Brendan is the older brother to two beautiful sisters, one adopted from China. We are honored to share his story below.
CHOOSING A “SCARY” SPECIAL NEED
By Shannon Zaller
I can laugh now- looking at my kids playing in the water sprinkler, jumping on the playground, flying kites, digging in the sand, and getting ice cream all over their faces- about how very little having a child with a special need has affected our lives in the way we thought it would. It feels more like… just having another child.
Like everyone in the early stages of planning a China adoption, I thought that we would be adopting a young healthy baby girl. No reason except that it was what I had seen in the media my whole life. When we started calling around to agencies, that’s the first time I had heard the term “special needs program”, which, quite frankly, scared the heck out of us. And not only were boys available for adoption, it was also considered a special need because less people were even open to a boy than a girl.